In most cases, especially in RELATIONSHIPS, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another thing or person (man or women) that you will meet and will OFFER you the other 20% which is lacking in your current relationship that you WANT, and trust me, 20% looks really GOOD when you are not getting it at all in your CURRENT relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be TEMTED to leave that GOOD 80% that you know you have and NEED, thinking that you will get something BETTER with the other 20% that you just WANT. However, as REALITY has proven, in most cases, you will always end up having JUST the 20% that you WANT, thereby, losing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already have or used to have.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
CHEATING happens when you start LOOKING for your WANTS or what you don't have. Like, “Wow, this girl in my class is a real 'looker'. But it's not JUST her coca cola features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender & many other things that my GIRL FRIEND/WIFE is not”
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more CHARMING or SENSITIVE, more alluring, more thoughtful, richer, and have greater sex appeal than your PARTNER/SPOUSE. And you will surely find a woman or man who will seem to “NEED” you and PURSUE you and go LOCO over you more than your spouse EVER did.
However, because no man or woman is PERFECT, because a spouse/partner will only have 80% of what you may be LOOKING for, CHEATING begins when you start looking for the MISSING 20%. Let's say your husband or boy friend is MELANCHOLIC by nature, you may find yourself drawn to the handsome guy next door who has a cherry laugh no matter what. Or because your husband/boy friend is the QUIET type, your HEART may skip a beat when you meet an old high school/college flame who has the makings of a TALK SHOW host!! Or because your wife or girl friend is a HOMEBODY in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! Because it represents all the years that you have been with each other. The STORMS you have WEATHERED together. The unforgettable moments of SADNESS and JOY as a couple, the many ADJUSTMENTS you have made because of the LOVE you have for each other, the wealth of MEMORIES that you've accumulated as LOVERS!
CHEATING happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But FAITHFULNESS happens when you start THANKING God for what you already have!
However, I'm not ONLY talking about relationships/marriage, I'm talking about life in general! Are you like the ECONOMY airline passenger that occasionally PEEKS through the door of the FIRST CLASS cabin, obsessed with what s/he's missing? Like, “They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!” I guarantee you'll be MISERABLE for the entire TRIP! Don't LIVE your LIFE like that. Forget about what the WORLD says is FIRST CLASS. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are MISERABLE in first class because they are not RIDING in a private Lear Jet????
Don't lose what you have by desiring what you don't have because at the end of the day, what u have now was once desired by you. If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
Don't lose what you have by desiring what you don't have because at the end of the day, what u have now was once desired by you. If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
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