RELATIONSHIPS AND AGE DIFFERENCES

A lot of people may say that AGE is a state of mind, that a person is only as OLD as they FEEL. That is an UPBEAT and OPTIMISTIC approach to AGING; however the question is if that applies when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS. It has quite often been acceptable for a MALE to be the older person in a relationship. Some issues can arise if the opposite happens; a younger man and an older woman. In addition, there can be some issues as well, if the male is many years older than the female. It is possible to have a SECURE and LOVING relationship in which there is an AGE difference, if both people involved understand certain issues that may arise and they can work together to resolve them.

The most important factor to understand is that although our bodies will show our age to a certain degree, age is most significant when it relates to MATURITY. Whether you find yourself to be the YOUNGER or the OLDER person in a relationship, take into account whether your MATURITY levels match. You may find in life that a fifty year old and a thirty year old can be very SIMILAR in regard to their MATURITY level. This all depends on their life EXPERIENCES, PERSONAL OUTLOOKS and GOALS.

One dynamic that can MAKE or BREAK a relationship is the COMMON GROUND that you SHARE with the other person. Most people will undoubtedly get along with someone who has similar INTEREST and HOBBIES. A night owl versus a morning bird will certainly not be in SYNC with each other. The same theory holds true for INTERESTS. While it is HEALTHY to have some of your own personal interests, it is very helpful to the relationship that you share TIME together doing things that you both ENJOY. Think about whether the age difference will affect activities done together; be they SWIMMING, HIKING, SKIING, or watching MOVIES, these times spent together will keep the relationship STRONG.

Another aspect to consider is if the age difference will interfere with your own personal GOALS. Whether you want to concentrate on your CAREER, have CHILDREN or spend your free time TRAVELING; ask yourself if your partner’s age difference AGREES with your way of life. Discuss the FUTURE, not just the present situation. Some topics to consider are FINANCES, CHILDREN, RETIREMENT GOALS and CAREER choices. You may find it very useful to choose a time to sit down and seriously talk about how the age difference may affect your LIVES one year, five years and possibly twenty years down the road.

Most importantly, if you and your partner feel you are RIGHT for each other, age will not matter. We all begin our quest for LOVE as young adults and we live with the intention of holding strong into our senior years. If two people are lucky enough to find each other, it usually will not matter at which point in life they do so. When it comes to LOVE, AGE IS JUST A NUMBER!!!!!
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THE HOWs AND WHYs OF LOVE

How can we love people who don’t seem to make things worth at all?

Why do we become so numb caring for people whom at times don’t even think of us in a day or two?

Why do we let ourselves hurt and continue hoping for a love that makes us defenseless?

And why do we prioritize these people who only choose us as options?

Are these the reasons why sometimes in love we end up losing ourselves?

I don't know why we all hang on to something we know we're better off letting go.
It's like we're scared to lose what we don't even really have.
Some of us say we rather have that something than absolutely nothing.
But the truth is: to have it halfway is harder and painful than not having it @ all.!

Sad but true…!

BUT I THINK THAT:
We should never let someone be our PRIORITY, while allowing ourselves to be just their OPTION!.

We don't need to push ourselves to love somebody only for the sake of having someone in our life. Otherwise, less is the chance that we can actually make work it out!!

If you would be loved, love and be lovable.

AND when all else fails, it would be SAFER for us to go out with somebody who loves us rather than we following our hearts in vain...!

WHAT DO U THINK?

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THE IDEAL GUY

People CHANGE no matter how hard they try not to.

As you grow older, you MATURE and with each new level of maturity comes different IDEAS, different NEEDS and WANTS. The person who was PERFECT for you at 20 could be the person you HATE when you are 30.

Find someone who will GROW with you, CHANGE with you, LAUGH with you and CRY with you.

A person who FILLS in where you LACK, a person whom you can fill in when they are lacking.

But what about the perfect person?
He/She doesn't exist.There are no perfect people, only people who are perfect for each other.

Find a guy who calls you BEAUTIFUL instead of HOT,

who calls you back when you hang up on him,

who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep...

wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,

who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats,

who holds your hand in front of his friends,

who thinks you're just as pretty without make up on.

One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you....

The one who turns to his friends and says, 'THAT's HER.! THE LOVE OF MY LIFE'

ALWAYS REMEMBER, Love means trusting yourself with someone who has seen you at your worst and loves you anyway.

It means teasing each other and laughing at jokes nobody but only the two of you understands.

It means feeling safe enough to talk about anything and having the patience to work out DISAGREEMENT.

It means counting on someone who sympathizes when you have a bad day, worries about you when you're gone too long and always welcomes you with OPEN ARMS!
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