CHEATING BREEDS DOUBT

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of Pearls. The girl had deck of cards.

The boy told the girl that he will give her all his pearls in exchange for her cards. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful pearl aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her cards as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But, the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some cards from him, the way he had hidden his best pearl.

This is exactly how most relationships are, If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent… If you truly love someone, you have to give and do your best, by doing the right thing. We have to realize that love is not enough to make a relationship work. We need trust, respect, time, effort and total commitment. If a person doesn't show respect, doesn't earn your trust and can't keep a promise, then no matter how many times they say, "I LOVE YOU," those words will be empty. Take time to listen to what they don't say. Take time to look at what they don't show. Because there are secrets hidden beneath their words. So don't let passion but wisdom decide for you. Love wisely because it is never easy to love and get hurt.

I think the best way to an everlasting relationship comes from two words... DON'T LIE! Or DON'T CHEAT!! If you must lie, then lie in the arms of the one you love, if you must cheat, cheat death and LIVE FOR YOUR LOVE!

Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully.

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LOVING A BEST FRIEND

How do I tell you that I like you?

How can I say that you're the only thing on my mind?

We’re supposed to be just friends...

But for me there's so much more there...

I just don't know how to tell you.

We’ll never be together

Still you’re in my heart forever

I don’t know how…

I don’t know when…

I’ll get used to the fact

That you’re just my friend…

If I told you I love you…would you still be my friend?

If I have to be just your best friend

If that’s all that I can get

Then I'll take the job with honor

I'll be the best one yet

I'll offer you my shoulder

I'll show you how I care

I'll be there when you need me

I'm not going anywhere

If I have to be your best friend

The one who hears you cry

Then I'll take the job with honor

I'll take the job with pride

My love for you is stronger

Than you will ever know

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LIVING IN LOVE

“There is a desire within each of us,
in the deep center of ourselves
that we call our heart.
We were born with it,
it is never completely satisfied,
and it never dies.
We are often unaware of it,
but it is always awake.

It is the Human desire for Love.
Every person in this Earth yearns to love,
to be loved, to know love.
Our true identity, our reason for being
is to be found in this desire.

Love is the "why" of life,
why we are functioning at all.
I am convinced
it is the fundamental energy
of the human spirit.
the fuel on which we run,
the wellspring of our vitality.

And grace,
which is the flowing,
creative activity, of love itself,
is what makes all goodness possible.

Love should come first,
it should be the beginning of,
and the reason for everything.”
 ― Gerald G. May,

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LOVE & HAPPINESS

Once I asked God to give me happiness. God said, “No. I give you blessings. Happiness is up to you”

Indeed, love and happiness is the one option that is always open to us. Love and happiness awakens and enhances all of our senses. Love makes us feel overwhelmed with joy and happiness. Speak kind words and you will hear kind echoes. The measure of our poverty or of our wealth is the love and happiness we give to others. Appreciation makes people feel more important than almost anything else in the world. When there is love in the heart, it just naturally spread to others. So spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor...Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting...

I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy and loved. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment. In my own limited experience I have found that the more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warmhearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the principal source of success in life. Since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. The key is to develop inner peace

                     

Love and happiness has to spring spontaneously from within. And it is no way amenable to any form of inner or outer force. Love and coercion can never go together; but though love cannot be forced on anyone, it can be awakened in people through love itself. Love is essentially self-communicative; those who do not have it catch it from those who have it. True love is unconquerable and irresistible, and it goes on gathering power and spreading itself, until eventually it transforms everyone whom it touches.

So I urge you to find a quiet place and listen. It should be very quiet. The only sound you should hear is your heart beating. Listen. Peer deep down inside your heart. Do you see someone that holds a special place in your heart? Maybe they have always been there when you needed them; maybe they offered words of encouragement; taught you a lesson; comforted you when you were sick; praised you on your accomplishments. Make this their lucky day. You have the POWER to spread happiness today. A quick note or a kind word is all it takes to bring a smile and lasting memory to someone very special.

Always remember that the world needs more warm and loving hearts. And a kind heart is a fountain of gladness, making everyone around brighten into smiles. May God bring back to you all the happiness you've given to others I wish everyone days with Joy

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the right time to say "I LOVE YOU"

The climax of just about every LOVE story is that key moment when the object of AFFECTION looks longingly into the other's eyes; their HEART pounds so fast that it sends paralyzing jolts of EUPHORIA throughout the body, and then they say those three little magic words… I LOVE YOU! This scenario is maybe what we see in the movies, but it is also how we IMAGINE it happening in REAL life. And quite frankly, how it really should be. Anything else is nothing short of a DISAPPOINTMENT. So, how can you ensure that your first “I LOVE YOU” will play out like the SCENE you've always envisioned? Read on please.

One of the most important things to know about saying I LOVE YOU is that, from the receiver's point of view, having someone tell you that they LOVE you when the FEELINGS aren't reciprocated is a HORRIBLE feeling. All of a sudden, feelings of FEAR and a sense of OBLIGATION emerge. With this in mind, take the following advice to heart if you are the one saying the first, “I LOVE YOU.”

Even though being HONEST to yourself and others is of UTMOST importance, taking your partner's FEELINGS into consideration is an equally necessary component. We often tell ourselves we are experiencing TRUE LOVE when we feel LUST, EXCITEMENT and a mere CONNECTION. In my opinion, TIME is the only sure way to decipher the TRUE nature of your EMOTIONS.

It can often seem like we have a built in compulsion to FALL or be in LOVE! For women, "I love you" is the sweetest phrase in the world. But not every man who says it means it. On the other hand, some men may feel it deeply, but still find it hard to say. There are several reasons these words might stick in a man's throat. The first is that, quite commonly, men have a difficult time expressing the emotions they feel most deeply. Another reason is the words "I love you" might be interpreted as a marriage proposal. So that nothing gets lost in the translation, men with this concern will wait for the time in which they can back up their words with a lifetime commitment....

The truth is, most people hear those words when you're telling them that you LOVE them. It’s what they wanna hear, so they do. Hearing those words when you don’t RECIPROCATE the feeling SUCKS! If you aren’t sure that what you're feeling is MUTUAL or IMMUTABLE, WAIT!!! It’s worth it! Hold your tongue until you’re sure to have a “MOVIE MOMENT.” The more anticipation you can build up, the better your moment. Pushing for this key moment will only CHEAPEN it!!!

Imagine yourself MARRYING this person and then, ten years down the road, you’re reminiscing. “OH HONEY, do you remember the first time I said ‘I LOVE YOU’?” How do you want that MEMORY to be? I think some people treat those three all-important magic words so CASUALLY, that they tend to FORGET soon after, but there are some who will forever keep the MEMORY because they prevented prematurely saying, “I LOVE YOU!”

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JEALOUSY IN ROMANCE

Jealousy or envy is a curse to human beings! The wise, the rich or even the powerful; no one has ever escaped from feeling the pangs of jealousy or envy.

There are moments in everyone's life where he/she feels a twinge of jealousy which simply cannot be prevented. However, when this jealousy turns into an obsession or pessimism, it can lead to utter Schadenfreude which is considered immoral.

Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.

In jealousy, there is more of SELF-LOVE than LOVE. A JEALOUS lover isn’t looking out for his or her partner’s WELFARE, only for his or her OWN. This reveals one’s INSECURITY within the relationship. When you’re JEALOUS, you actually display a lack of TRUST in your partner.

Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy - in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.

I believe a loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.

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SOME BASIC THINGS MEN WANT FROM THEIR WOMEN

 We often hear or read about what women want, what women want to hear or the dozens of other variations of how to please or appease a women's needs. But what about men? We rarely read about what men want to hear from women. Women often question men's EMOTIONAL needs and frequently reduce the ESSENCE of men to having one thing on their minds, all the time! Evolutionary psychology has proven otherwise.

Men have emotional needs too, albeit not as much as women. Before we consider what your man would like to hear from you, let's first consider the most vital key to proper COMMUNICATION; effective listening. Although we're discussing what your man wants to hear from you, we also want to ensure that when your man does communicate - even though it may be on rare occasions - that you're able to detect what he truly WANTS to hear from you. As the saying goes, God gave all of us two ears and a single mouth so that we may hear twice as much as we speak! Effective listening will enable you to pick up on those warning signs that his emotional needs are not being met.
Women, you often ask your men to be more in touch with their emotional side, so here we go! Here are five things your man wants to hear from you!

"I'll SUPPORT YOU IN ANY ENDEAVOR YOU CHOOSE."
We've all heard the saying: Behind every good man, there's an even greater woman. Well, we're not insisting you stay behind your man, but as the song goes, "Stand by your Man," that's all we ask. Support us in what we set out to accomplish and you'll be amazed at what we can do when a woman we love dearly accepts and encourages us in every which way. This segue ways into the next thing we'd love to hear from a woman.

"I ACCEPT YOU AND ALL THAT YOU ARE... and I do mean all!"
Acceptance from a loved one outside of our immediate family, for many of us, is the essence of a romantic linkage, and yet many relationships fail for this very reason, due to couples not accepting each other in every shape or form. Don't try and change your man. Accept him for who he is, or move onto someone more compatible. Thinking of him as a pet-project to place your passion into molding him will only drive him away, whether it's emotionally (likely to occur first) or physically.

"WE ARE A TEAM, BABY!"
A romantic connection, much like any other relationship, should be built upon the foundations of solid communications, mutual missions and a shared vision. It's a tough world out there, and yet it only seems to get increasingly tougher. Just because we're men doesn't mean every ounce of burden should be placed upon us, even though at times we insist it! Sometimes, we simply want to hear you say things that elicit an intangible bond, which if shaped properly, is unbreakable.

"YOU ARE HOT (and I mean it)!"
Let's face it - everyone - men and women love to get checked out, and getting checked out and being reassured that not only have you been checked out but the beholder endorses you with a resounding stamp of approval, feels great! In fact, it's a feeling unlike many others… and when a random, spontaneous statement such as, "Babe, you look hot today," is often much better than the ubiquitous, "I love you," or the heaven forbid humdrum line of, "You look good."

I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT
Hearing the words "I love you" from the (special some) one you love has become expected. It's common and over-usage has, in some contexts, made it a loaded phrase. Do all who use the phrase truly know its implications? Or have our standards of love lessened in these harrowing global times? Society projects many roles men must follow and fit into, or at least are implied. We're forced to make grand attempts and take major risks. We feel the need to do all these things, and somewhere in the back of our minds, is the possibility of failure. Most men - scratch that - anyone would want to hear, from their loved ones, that they will be loved no matter what the outcome of any given situation is. Even if they have failed. This is the hallmark of unconditional love... the truest and arguably the only form of love.
From a woman's perspective within the context of her current relationship, many of these may be tough to say genuinely, and yet the thought of saying them may very well be a test to determine whether your current relationship is as significant as you thought.

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THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE

Love is . . . Being happy for the other person when they are happy, Being sad for the person when they are sad, Being together in good times, And being together in bad times. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF STRENGTH. 

Love is . . . Being honest with yourself at all times, being honest with the other person at all times, listening, telling respecting the truth, And never pretending. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF REALITY. 

Love is . . . An understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person, accepting the other person just the way they are, and not trying to change them to be something else. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF UNITY. 

Love is . . . The freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person, the growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SUCCESS. 

Love is . . . The excitement of planning things together, the excitement of doing things together. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF THE FUTURE. 

Love is . . . The fury of the storm, the calm in the rainbow. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF PASSION. 

Love is . . . Giving and taking in a daily situation, being patient with each other's needs and desires. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SHARING. 

Love is . . . Knowing that the other person will always be with you regardless of what happens, Missing the other person when they are away but remaining near in heart at all times. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SECURITY & LIFE! 

Love is …patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves 

Love is a wonderful GIFT. It's a PRESENT so precious words can barely begin to describe it. Love is a FEELING, the deepest and sweetest of all. It's incredibly STRONG and amazingly GENTLE at the very same time. It is a BLESSING that should be counted every day. It is nourishment for the soul. It is DEVOTION, constantly letting each person know how SUPPORTIVE its certainty can be.

Love is a HEART filled with AFFECTION for the most important person in your life. Love is looking at the special someone who makes your world go around and absolutely loving what you see. Love gives MEANING to one's world and MAGIC to a million hopes and dreams. It makes the morning shine more brightly and each season seem like it's the NICEST one anyone ever had. Love is an invaluable BOND that enriches every good thing in life. It gives each a hug of TENDERNESS, each a heart of HAPPINESS and each spirit a steady LIFT. Love is an invisible CONNECTION that is exquisitely felt by those who know the JOY, feel the WARMTH, share the SWEETNESS, and celebrate the GIFT!
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TEENAGERS & PRE MARITAL SEX

SEX is not just a physical act to relive sexual tension. Having sex can cause very strong EMOTIONS. Sometimes a teenager (or even some adults) may only realize this after having sex.

It is for this reason that people (especially teenagers) should carefully think about the consequences of having sex well before they actually do it. Sexual intercourse is the most INTIMATE thing that two people can do.

When having sex, it is said that two bodies become one. Sex can cause strong feelings for both people; and females will most likely feel this strongest. A female teen should carefully think about the possibility of having sex, because once she does, it cannot be ERASED. If her partner is not MATURE enough to handle the emotions that will occur, she may find she will dearly regret her decision. Sex can lead a person to feel that they are in love, or it can make the feelings of love stronger; a person should be sure a relationship is lasting before having sex.

A person (especially girls) should be sure that they can handle the emotions of sex and the responsibilities of sex before they have intercourse. Sex can be a wonderful thing; but there is no rush. Sex always has SOME consequences-when Adolf Hitler's mother spread her legs that night, she effectively canceled out the spreading of fifteen to twenty million other pairs of legs! One thing I've learned over the years is there's probably nothing worse you can do to yourself than to make love when you really don't feel it. We should always bear in mind that there’s no CONDOM for the BRAIN or the HEART. So when you have SEX (especially before marriage) you’re playing with fire that will most certainly BURN you at some point in your life… especially in your marriage relationship

We should refuse to take, exploit, cheapen, defraud, or substitute sexual activity for genuine LOVE and authentic intimacy. In order to understand this paradigm, we’ve got to remember that SEX is not exactly wrong and God is no PRUDE. Am saying sex is not necessarily a SIN to be avoided but a GIFT to be cherished. All of us want GENUINE intimacy. We want to have RELATIONSHIPS that matter. We long for someone to feel deeply loved because of us. We also want to be LOVED and CHERISHED and cared for by someone else. [In Ephesians 5:3-4, the Apostle] Paul says certain things will squelch and destroy love and break relationships. These are crucial warnings. If we are going to truly love somebody, then we should not take, exploit, or cheapen him or her. We should not engage in sexual activity to create PSEUDO-INTIMACY that’s false because we don’t really care and we’re not really COMMITTED. We should not substitute sex for authentic intimacy!

It is said that TESTOSTERONE (one of the hormones responsible for sex drive) is 20-40 per cent more prevalent in men than women. That’s why I liken men to an ELECTRIC LIGHT BULB — you flip a switch and on he goes. But all of us (especially men) need to learn to be LOVERS if we are to satisfy the needs of our (future) partners/wives!

And to the ladies, unless he puts a ring on it, or unless you are very SURE of him, please try as much as possible to give him absolutely no reason to presume you “belong” to him.

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DIFFERENT TIMES IN LOVE

There are times when WORDS aren’t enough

FEELINGS can’t always be put into words;

because they are INADEQUATE and often ESCAPE us

sometimes, there are only FEELINGS.

There are times when all you need is a LOOK;

a silent, wordless connection between souls

an understanding that needs no translation

a natural, knowing stare that says everything.

There are times when all you need is a TOUCH;

nothing spoken - just the gesture of reaching out

touching, silently transferring your energy

conveying something that comes from within

There are times when all you need is ACCEPTANCE

to know that you are valued as you are

that any changes you make only enhance you more

as you discover yourself.

There are times when all you need is LOVE

no conditions or demands, only simplicity,

to know that for no reason at all

another chooses you over all others.

There are times when all you ever wanted,

was to be completed by another person.

There are times when you need all of these things

there are times when nothing else matters."

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