LIFE IS A PARADOX

Life is a paradox.!
What you want, you don't get. What you get, you don't enjoy. What you enjoy is not permanent. What is permanent is boring. That's life, but it is meant to build the best in us.

INDEED Superman isn't brave. You can't be brave if you are INDESTRUCTIBLE
It is everyday people like you and me who are brave, knowing we can easily be DEFEATED but still continuing FORWARD. That's true bravery.

Always keep in mind that failures and difficulties shouldn't scare us because they lead us to breakthroughs and great discoveries about ourselves and the world we live in..!
The burdens of life are like winds against a tree, it makes the tree stronger by forcing it to make its roots run deep for it not to fall.

Life is a rope that swings us through hope. Always believe that today is better than yesterday, and tomorrow will be much better than today.
SO lets welcome the winds that strengthen us!

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LOVE RIGHT

A butterfly was in love with a white rose.
One day, the butterfly proposed to the rose.
but the white rose told him that when she turns red,
that's the only time she'll love him back.
The butterfly then flew, cut his body and spread his blood on the rose.
The rose turned red and fell in love with the butterfly,
but the butterfly was no longer alive.
LESSONS?


Love sacrifices are sometimes useless especially if that SOMEONE doesn't know how to appreciate.
They will come to realize important things when it's already too late!
Hence, sometimes, you just have to try not to care no matter how much you do because sometimes you can mean nothing to someone who means everything to you. It's not lack of confidence / pride.
It's called SELF-RESPECT!


Most people always think that the most painful thing is losing the one you love in your life.
The truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, forgetting that you are special too.


Love isn't about judging nor being perfectionist. Love is about ACCEPTING, UNDERSTANDING, SELF-SACRIFICING and most of all, love is supposed to MAKE U HAPPY, NOT STUPID!


SO never let someone be your PRIORITY, while allowing yourself to be just their OPTIONS.!


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INSECURITY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Insecurity is a number one KILLER for relationships. If the terrain is not rich with ESTEEM, the relationship will not have a chance to FLOURISH. Thus, it is destined to VANISH slowly but SURELY. Insecurity usually originates from FEAR, LOW-SELF ESTEEM (inferiority complex), and/or lack of FINANCIAL STABILITY... Insecurity is detrimental to every relationships as it causes RESENTMENT in a relationship which further UNDERMINES the very fabric of a relationship. Once accumulated, insecurity can lead to FIGHTS and CONFLICTS within a relationship that can eventually DESTROY it.

Insecurity manifests itself through FEAR OF COMMITMENT, JEALOUSY, and UNCERTAINTY. People who are extremely INSECURE are more likely to interpret their partners' actions in a NEGATIVE way. Insecure persons always look for somebody to BLAME when things go wrong. They have a tendency to blame their partner for everything that goes wrong in the relationship. They don't take the time to SHARE their insecurities with their partner before they escalate into a PROBLEM..

We have all felt INSECURE at some point in our LIVES. In fact, the world is filled with INSECURITY. But, it is one thing to FEEL insecure but quite another one to ACT on it. Insecure individuals do not even realize the DETRIMENTAL impact that their ACTIONS have on their relationships. Acting on your insecurity will grow RESENTMENT towards your partner, and eventually lead to FIGHTING. Thus, insecurities are DESTRUCTIVE as they create an UNHEALTHY environment in a relationship that eventually escalates into fights and even PHYSICAL VIOLENCE in some cases. We all know of couples who constantly FIGHT each other in front of FRIENDS and FAMILY. They give impressions of very insecure people.

If you want to avoid insecurity in your relationship, then work on building up your SELF-ESTEEM. Maintaining OPEN and WARM COMMUNICATION with your partner helps ALLEVIATE feelings of insecurity that may be present in your relationship. In fact, the more EFFORT you INVEST into improving COMMUNICATION lines with your partner and common UNDERSTANDING, the more SUCCESSFUL you will become in achieving INTIMACY and thus AVOIDING insecurities in your relationship.

Your relationship should be all about building INTIMACY and PEACE in your LIFE as it is your only corner of PRIVACY in today's world full of FEARS and INSECURITY. Nurture your relationship by being HONEST and OPEN with your partner. By openly sharing your personal FEARS, DREAMS, and HOPES in an atmosphere free of JUDGMENT and RIDICULE, your personal INSECURITIES will not be allowed to GROW into RESENTMENT towards your partner. Thus, you will be on the road towards achieving HAPPY and LONG-LASTING RELATIONSHIP.......!!!!!!
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WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT???

 
People enter into a relationship to get to know the other person, they enter into a COMMITMENT based on their LOVE, and they seek HAPPINESS in LIFE. Whether happiness revolves around MARRIAGE and KIDS or a significant other to spend life with. All relationships have PROBLEMS. A couple married for 35 years didn’t hit several bumps in the road. What makes their relationship last while others don’t? That is a tough question to answer because there are a lot of factors. Cheating on your spouse or significant other is just one factor in an unhappy relationship.


Why do people cheat? There are several reasons. The biggest is opportunity and unhappiness. Relationships are built on love, and sometimes two people forget to communicate causing unhappiness. When an opportunity comes along to talk with someone about our problems we usually do so. Does it always lead to cheating? No, not always.


First we should probably define cheating. Cheating can be going on a date with someone else while in a relationship, having sex with another individual, or a conversation the other is jealous of. An individual decides what their definition of cheating is. For the sake of this article we will concentrate on cheating as a sexual act.


Often those who cheat with a sexual act are two types of people. Those who pray on another’s needs to satisfy their own and those who didn’t mean to cheat but circumstances evolved before anyone remembered to say no. Those who pray on another’s needs usually are out for a satisfying relationship in bed and don’t really wish for a more significant relationship. Married people often pose a safe avenue for those who don’t wish to be tied to an individual. Those who cheat as an accidental incident are guilty when it is over. It could be too much alcohol and an attraction to another individual that leads to the act or it could be so much pain that they seek some sort of release.


Some individuals who lose a child or other loved one may seek outside relationships from their marriage because they are no longer able to communicate the hurt to their partner. It could be a result of a marriage or relationship long over, but no one has the guts to say that it is over. It is hard to hurt a person we have loved or one we still love, but not the same as we once did.


Individuals who fall out of love may seek other relationships while still married because they need a fulfillment, but don’t want to hurt the other person. Of course this is faulty thinking because the other individual will be more hurt for the betrayal rather than the ending of the relationship. Why people cheat is still a mystery, to a large degree. Why we feel we should betray someone by cheating rather than ending a stale relationship is still left unanswered. We can have many excuses, but in the end they don’t matter as much as the pain caused...


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It's our ATTITUDE!

When we're incomplete,

we're always searching for
somebody to complete us.
Then, after a few years or a few
months of a relationship,
we find that we're still unfulfilled,
we blame our partners and take
up with somebody more promising.
This can go on and on
- series polygamy
- until we admit that while a
partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives,
we, (each of us), are responsible for our own fulfillment.
Nobody else can provide it for us,
and to believe otherwise is
to delude ourselves dangerously
and to program for eventual failure in every relationship we enter into.
Whenever you're in conflict with someone,
there is one factor that can make the difference
between damaging your relationship and deepening it.
That factor is ATTITUDE.!
We choose how we see people. When we want to like someone, we can be so tolerant.
When we want to be irritated by people, we focus on their faults.
It's not other people's behavior that determines how we feel about them,


IT's OUR ATTITUDE!
INDEED, LOVE should be defined as “WHEN YOUR NEEDS ARE AS IMPORTANT AS MY NEEDS." This kind of love is more powerful than lust, attraction, common interests, animal instincts, social influence, and even self-esteem. When you are capable of this kind of love, you may find it with someone like you or unlike you in BIOLOGY OR PSYCHOLOGY. There are plenty of rules in CHEMISTRY, but there are no rules when it comes to LOVE.
Strive to be an EMOTIONALLY MATURE person, ready to give and accept LOVE. Challenge yourself to break out of your RELATIONSHIP PARADIGM. Get to know yourself first, and when you're SECURE with who you are and what you see in the mirror, you will be able to accept a people in the same way. A healthy lifestyle where you are happy with yourself affects your psyche and hormones, making you attractive to others. The more aware we are of that, the easier it should be to allow the “MAGIC” to happen naturally.


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It's our ATTITUDE!

When we're incomplete,
we're always searching for
somebody to complete us.

Then, after a few years or a few
months of a relationship,
we find that we're still unfulfilled,
we blame our partners and take
up with somebody more promising.

This can go on and on
- series polygamy
- until we admit that while a
partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives,
we, (each of us), are responsible for our own fulfillment.

Nobody else can provide it for us,
and to believe otherwise is
to delude ourselves dangerously
and to program for eventual failure in every relationship we enter into.

Whenever you're in conflict with someone,
there is one factor that can make the difference
between damaging your relationship and deepening it.

That factor is ATTITUDE.!

We choose how we see people. When we want to like someone, we can be so tolerant.

When we want to be irritated by people, we focus on their faults.

It's not other people's behavior that determines how we feel about them,

IT's OUR ATTITUDE!

INDEED, LOVE should be defined as “WHEN YOUR NEEDS ARE AS IMPORTANT AS MY NEEDS." This kind of love is more powerful than lust, attraction, common interests, animal instincts, social influence, and even self-esteem. When you are capable of this kind of love, you may find it with someone like you or unlike you in BIOLOGY OR PSYCHOLOGY. There are plenty of rules in CHEMISTRY, but there are no rules when it comes to LOVE.

Strive to be an EMOTIONALLY MATURE person, ready to give and accept LOVE. Challenge yourself to break out of your RELATIONSHIP PARADIGM. Get to know yourself first, and when you're SECURE with who you are and what you see in the mirror, you will be able to accept a people in the same way. A healthy lifestyle where you are happy with yourself affects your psyche and hormones, making you attractive to others. The more aware we are of that, the easier it should be to allow the “MAGIC” to happen naturally.


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