JEALOUSY IN ROMANCE

Jealousy or envy is a curse to human beings! The wise, the rich or even the powerful; no one has ever escaped from feeling the pangs of jealousy or envy.

There are moments in everyone's life where he/she feels a twinge of jealousy which simply cannot be prevented. However, when this jealousy turns into an obsession or pessimism, it can lead to utter Schadenfreude which is considered immoral.

Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.

In jealousy, there is more of SELF-LOVE than LOVE. A JEALOUS lover isn’t looking out for his or her partner’s WELFARE, only for his or her OWN. This reveals one’s INSECURITY within the relationship. When you’re JEALOUS, you actually display a lack of TRUST in your partner.

Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy - in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.

I believe a loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.

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WINNERS' WAY!

The Winner is always a part of the ANSWER; the Loser is always a part of the PROBLEM

The winner always has a PLAN; the loser always has an EXCUSE

The Winner says "Let me do it for you"; the loser says "That's not my Job"

The winner sees an ANSWER in every PROBLEM. The loser sees a problem in every answer

The winner sees a Green near every sand trap. The loser sees a sand trap near every green

The winner says "It may be difficult but its possible. The loser says “It may be possible but its difficult”

WINNERS take chances like everyone else.

They fear failing, but they refuse to let fear control them.

Winners don’t give up, when life gets tough, they hang in until the going gets better

Winners are flexible. They realise there is more than one way and they are willing to try others.

Winners know they are not perfect. They respect their weaknesses while making the most of their strengths.

Winners fall, but they don’t stay down. They stubbornly refuse to let a fall keep them from climbing.

Winners don’t blame fate for their failures, Nor luck for their successes.

Winners accept responsibility for their lives.

Winners are positive thinkers who see good in all things.

From the ordinary, they make the extraordinary. From lemons they make lemonades.

Winners believe in the path they have chosen even when it’s hard, Even when others can’t see where they are going.

Winners are patient. They know a goal is only as worthy as the effort that’s required to achieve it.

Winners are people like you. We normally forget we are winners when life throws challenges at us. Always remember you fought with millions of sperms to be the first to fertilize the egg. You fought to get here, so you cannot afford to be a failure now.

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FEAR FACTOR

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Everyone has some sort of fear in life. It may be brought about by any one or more of the following reasons:

•     By our own negative mindset, (but are you going to let fear take over your life?)
•       By the influence of other people,
•      By a sad past incident,

But the fear of failure is the fear of failing yourself. You can never let yourself down but only can you keep pushing yourself up, up to higher levels of achievements. Never live your life to please others but live for self-satisfaction of self-made accomplishments. Don't fear the fear of failing, but rather fear not trying to have the opportunity to fail. Go ahead fail once, twice, trust soon you will get it right!

You must take the necessary steps to overcome your fear. It's all in the mind.

Do you want to be a doctor but you are afraid that your intellect can't handle the pressure or you are worried about financial insecurity? Do you envy other people when you see them enjoying wild rides, and you are just stuck in a corner because you are too terrified to give it a try?

On a quest to start a new life, you will face a lot of challenges and uphill battles that will try to bring you down. Fears will arise that will make you stumble and the only way to stop them is to face them! As a friend, I would like you to know that life will knock us down but we can choose to get back up. Always remember to be strong. Root that in your heart. My suggestion is to face your fear head-on. If you are really determined to achieve your deepest desires and aspirations, a powerful force will enable you to reach them amidst every obstacle that comes in the way. Someone or something will always be there to help you attain your goals. Just have faith in your abilities. Your WILL POWER has the utmost capacity to accomplish anything with the proper mindset.

You could also use VISUALIZATION METHOD to help you in overpowering any kind of fear. Are you afraid of heights? Then imagine yourself being on top of a mountain, overseeing the magnificent sights. Enjoy and feel the moment. Take away all worries and anxieties. Inhabit your own soul and your own destiny. Where your fears lie and there is no retreat where you should be in your moments of greatness. You will find yourself, your true being on that edge, the edge of the abyss and when you jump in you will find that you will either fly or fall into a pool of ecstasy. Either of these outcomes is an infinitely superior way to live or to die for that matter.

This applies to whatever thing that triggers your fear factor. Just imagine being able to defeat it, then confront it with the definite belief that you have the will power and capacity to do everything you want if you just put your mind to it.

Control your fear before it controls you. It implies that with the proper mindset, determination, and will power, you can conquer your fear! 

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THE WORLD AS I SEE IT!!!

How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn and we pass through this world but once, for what purpose we may not even know, though sometimes we think we sense it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exist for other people - first of all, for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own HAPPINESS is wholly DEPENDENT, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose DESTINATIONS we're bound by the ties of SYMPATHY.

Indeed, we humans are SOCIAL beings. We come into the world as the result of others' ACTIONS. We SURVIVE here by direct or indirect DEPENDENCE on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not BENEFIT from others' actions or inactions. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our RELATIONSHIPS with others.

We're all pieces of the same ever-changing puzzle; some connected for mere seconds, some connected for life, some connected through knowledge, some through belief, some connected through wisdom, some through Love, and some of us connected with no explanation at all. Yet, as spiritual beings having a human experience, we're all here for the sensations this reality or illusion has to offer. The best anyone can hope for is the right to be able to Live, Learn, Love then Leave an indelible mark.

It is for this reason that every day when I wake up, I ask myself, I've only but one life and it soon will be gone. What will remain of the things that I've done? Will I be remembered as someone who cared? Someone who sympathized? Someone who shared? Will the things that I did while on earth be worthwhile? Have I lightened a load? Gone the second mile?

Did I put off my ambitions on hold to help someone else in reaching their goal? Did I spend time counting the seconds or did I make every second count?

Indeed, if I can say YES to these things, and more, then I'll not be ashamed when I reach Heaven's shore. I will hold my head high, when I'm called by my Lord to stand before God to receive my reward.

A hundred times each day, we must remind ourselves that our inner and outer life is based on the labors of other men, living and dead and that we must exert ourselves in order to give in the same measure as we’ve received and still receiving.

We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection. Indeed when we begin from the recognition that all beings cherish happiness and do not want suffering. It then becomes both MORALLY wrong and PRAGMATICALLY unwise to pursue only one's own happiness oblivious to the FEELINGS and ASPIRATIONS of all others who surround us as members of the same HUMAN FAMILY. The wiser course is to think of others when pursuing our own HAPPINESS!!

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SOME BASIC THINGS MEN WANT FROM THEIR WOMEN

 We often hear or read about what women want, what women want to hear or the dozens of other variations of how to please or appease a women's needs. But what about men? We rarely read about what men want to hear from women. Women often question men's EMOTIONAL needs and frequently reduce the ESSENCE of men to having one thing on their minds, all the time! Evolutionary psychology has proven otherwise.

Men have emotional needs too, albeit not as much as women. Before we consider what your man would like to hear from you, let's first consider the most vital key to proper COMMUNICATION; effective listening. Although we're discussing what your man wants to hear from you, we also want to ensure that when your man does communicate - even though it may be on rare occasions - that you're able to detect what he truly WANTS to hear from you. As the saying goes, God gave all of us two ears and a single mouth so that we may hear twice as much as we speak! Effective listening will enable you to pick up on those warning signs that his emotional needs are not being met.
Women, you often ask your men to be more in touch with their emotional side, so here we go! Here are five things your man wants to hear from you!

"I'll SUPPORT YOU IN ANY ENDEAVOR YOU CHOOSE."
We've all heard the saying: Behind every good man, there's an even greater woman. Well, we're not insisting you stay behind your man, but as the song goes, "Stand by your Man," that's all we ask. Support us in what we set out to accomplish and you'll be amazed at what we can do when a woman we love dearly accepts and encourages us in every which way. This segue ways into the next thing we'd love to hear from a woman.

"I ACCEPT YOU AND ALL THAT YOU ARE... and I do mean all!"
Acceptance from a loved one outside of our immediate family, for many of us, is the essence of a romantic linkage, and yet many relationships fail for this very reason, due to couples not accepting each other in every shape or form. Don't try and change your man. Accept him for who he is, or move onto someone more compatible. Thinking of him as a pet-project to place your passion into molding him will only drive him away, whether it's emotionally (likely to occur first) or physically.

"WE ARE A TEAM, BABY!"
A romantic connection, much like any other relationship, should be built upon the foundations of solid communications, mutual missions and a shared vision. It's a tough world out there, and yet it only seems to get increasingly tougher. Just because we're men doesn't mean every ounce of burden should be placed upon us, even though at times we insist it! Sometimes, we simply want to hear you say things that elicit an intangible bond, which if shaped properly, is unbreakable.

"YOU ARE HOT (and I mean it)!"
Let's face it - everyone - men and women love to get checked out, and getting checked out and being reassured that not only have you been checked out but the beholder endorses you with a resounding stamp of approval, feels great! In fact, it's a feeling unlike many others… and when a random, spontaneous statement such as, "Babe, you look hot today," is often much better than the ubiquitous, "I love you," or the heaven forbid humdrum line of, "You look good."

I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT
Hearing the words "I love you" from the (special some) one you love has become expected. It's common and over-usage has, in some contexts, made it a loaded phrase. Do all who use the phrase truly know its implications? Or have our standards of love lessened in these harrowing global times? Society projects many roles men must follow and fit into, or at least are implied. We're forced to make grand attempts and take major risks. We feel the need to do all these things, and somewhere in the back of our minds, is the possibility of failure. Most men - scratch that - anyone would want to hear, from their loved ones, that they will be loved no matter what the outcome of any given situation is. Even if they have failed. This is the hallmark of unconditional love... the truest and arguably the only form of love.
From a woman's perspective within the context of her current relationship, many of these may be tough to say genuinely, and yet the thought of saying them may very well be a test to determine whether your current relationship is as significant as you thought.

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THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE

Love is . . . Being happy for the other person when they are happy, Being sad for the person when they are sad, Being together in good times, And being together in bad times. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF STRENGTH. 

Love is . . . Being honest with yourself at all times, being honest with the other person at all times, listening, telling respecting the truth, And never pretending. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF REALITY. 

Love is . . . An understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person, accepting the other person just the way they are, and not trying to change them to be something else. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF UNITY. 

Love is . . . The freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person, the growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SUCCESS. 

Love is . . . The excitement of planning things together, the excitement of doing things together. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF THE FUTURE. 

Love is . . . The fury of the storm, the calm in the rainbow. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF PASSION. 

Love is . . . Giving and taking in a daily situation, being patient with each other's needs and desires. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SHARING. 

Love is . . . Knowing that the other person will always be with you regardless of what happens, Missing the other person when they are away but remaining near in heart at all times. 
LOVE IS THE SOURCE OF SECURITY & LIFE! 

Love is …patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves 

Love is a wonderful GIFT. It's a PRESENT so precious words can barely begin to describe it. Love is a FEELING, the deepest and sweetest of all. It's incredibly STRONG and amazingly GENTLE at the very same time. It is a BLESSING that should be counted every day. It is nourishment for the soul. It is DEVOTION, constantly letting each person know how SUPPORTIVE its certainty can be.

Love is a HEART filled with AFFECTION for the most important person in your life. Love is looking at the special someone who makes your world go around and absolutely loving what you see. Love gives MEANING to one's world and MAGIC to a million hopes and dreams. It makes the morning shine more brightly and each season seem like it's the NICEST one anyone ever had. Love is an invaluable BOND that enriches every good thing in life. It gives each a hug of TENDERNESS, each a heart of HAPPINESS and each spirit a steady LIFT. Love is an invisible CONNECTION that is exquisitely felt by those who know the JOY, feel the WARMTH, share the SWEETNESS, and celebrate the GIFT!
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