The climax of just about every LOVE story is that key moment when the object of AFFECTION looks longingly into the other's eyes; their HEART pounds so fast that it sends paralyzing jolts of EUPHORIA throughout the body, and then they say those three little magic words… I LOVE YOU! This scenario is maybe what we see in the movies, but it is also how we IMAGINE it happening in REAL life. And quite frankly, how it really should be. Anything else is nothing short of a DISAPPOINTMENT. So, how can you ensure that your first “I LOVE YOU” will play out like the SCENE you've always envisioned? Read on please.
One of the most important things to know about saying I LOVE YOU is that, from the receiver's point of view, having someone tell you that they LOVE you when the FEELINGS aren't reciprocated is a HORRIBLE feeling. All of a sudden, feelings of FEAR and a sense of OBLIGATION emerge. With this in mind, take the following advice to heart if you are the one saying the first, “I LOVE YOU.”
Even though being HONEST to yourself and others is of UTMOST importance, taking your partner's FEELINGS into consideration is an equally necessary component. We often tell ourselves we are experiencing TRUE LOVE when we feel LUST, EXCITEMENT and a mere CONNECTION. In my opinion, TIME is the only sure way to decipher the TRUE nature of your EMOTIONS.
It can often seem like we have a built in compulsion to FALL or be in LOVE! For women, "I love you" is the sweetest phrase in the world. But not every man who says it means it. On the other hand, some men may feel it deeply, but still find it hard to say. There are several reasons these words might stick in a man's throat. The first is that, quite commonly, men have a difficult time expressing the emotions they feel most deeply. Another reason is the words "I love you" might be interpreted as a marriage proposal. So that nothing gets lost in the translation, men with this concern will wait for the time in which they can back up their words with a lifetime commitment....
The truth is, most people hear those words when you're telling them that you LOVE them. It’s what they wanna hear, so they do. Hearing those words when you don’t RECIPROCATE the feeling SUCKS! If you aren’t sure that what you're feeling is MUTUAL or IMMUTABLE, WAIT!!! It’s worth it! Hold your tongue until you’re sure to have a “MOVIE MOMENT.” The more anticipation you can build up, the better your moment. Pushing for this key moment will only CHEAPEN it!!!
Imagine yourself MARRYING this person and then, ten years down the road, you’re reminiscing. “OH HONEY, do you remember the first time I said ‘I LOVE YOU’?” How do you want that MEMORY to be? I think some people treat those three all-important magic words so CASUALLY, that they tend to FORGET soon after, but there are some who will forever keep the MEMORY because they prevented prematurely saying, “I LOVE YOU!”
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